Secret Steps to a Happy Jewish Marriage

It is obvious that when a couple who have real love and regard for each other and are really relating to each other in their conjugal union at the level of tiferes, then there is achieved the deepest level of intimacy, described in Torah as “one flesh”. Chassidus points out this is also “one soul”. The point here is a description of connection into one unity. Obviously there is connection between one body and another body, one animal soul to another, but at its highest point the connection is G‑dly soul with G‑dly soul. In the physical world in which we live we have to deal with the mortgages, fixing our kids’ teeth and the apparently impossible task of balancing our budgets. There are times however, for everyone in a good marriage, when they can remember and reflect on the precious moments of total intimacy. These moments are a spiritual realization of soul reconnection and indeed unity of one part of the soul with the other.